Overstimulation does not happen in isolation. Cultures do not stumble into environments that weaken the human spirit by accident. For supernormal stimuli to take root and thrive, something deeper must shift. A worldview must emerge that justifies the erosion of structure, discipline, and formation. That worldview is what I call the pseudo-enlightenment. Enlightenment Without Formation The pseudo-enlightenment borrows the language of freedom, authenticity, and progress while q

Most people today feel overwhelmed, restless, and dissatisfied, even when nothing appears to be wrong. Life is full, yet oddly empty. Busy, yet unsatisfying. Loud, yet emotionally undernourishing. In therapy offices, living rooms, and quiet moments alone, the same questions keep surfacing. Why am I so easily irritated? Why can’t I sit still? Why does nothing seem to satisfy for long? Why does marriage feel harder than it should? The default assumption is that something is wro

Building confidence is not about forcing change or eliminating doubt. It grows through small, steady choices that strengthen self-belief over time. By developing supportive habits, caring for your mental wellness, and breaking goals into manageable steps, confidence becomes something you practice daily rather than something you wait to feel. Lasting change begins with consistency, self-compassion, and the courage to move forward one step at a time.

It may seem counterintuitive, but life is not meant to be lived through constant grinding and force. We’ve been conditioned to believe that hard work alone is the path to success, fulfillment, and inner peace. That if we just try hard enough, push long enough, and strive sincerely enough, we will eventually arrive at the life we are chasing. But day after day, I sit with people who are doing just that. They are giving everything they have to personal growth, to their marriage

We often think of empathy as something soft, feeling into someone’s emotions, holding space, nodding compassionately. But logical empathy adds a second layer. It means applying reason and curiosity to those emotions. It means asking not just how do they feel? But why does that feeling make sense to them? What’s the internal logic behind their emotional world? In other words, it’s empathy that’s done some thinking.

Most people don’t struggle to understand boundaries. They struggle to set them. Not because they don’t know how to say no, but because saying no makes them feel like a bad person. A bad parent. A bad friend. A bad Christian. Hateful. The Devil and more.  So they keep saying yes when they want to say no. They stay in conversations that feel like emotional warfare. They overextend until they’re spiritually brittle and relationally resentful.

Divorce. Job loss. Parenting alone. ADHD. Anxiety. Rheumatoid arthritis. More moves than anyone should ever have to endure. In 2018, it all collided at once. She had to pack an entire house alone while her life was falling apart. She did not move because she wanted to. She moved because the ground underneath her gave way, and standing still was not an option.

There was a time when people said marriage was about dying to self. You don’t hear it much anymore, not because it stopped being true, but because we’ve forgotten what marriage really is. We think it’s about compatibility, chemistry, co-parenting, and maybe cohabitation if you’re feeling old-fashioned. But covenant? Sacrifice? Death to ego? That’s ancient language we’ve traded for comfort and convenience. Here’s what often gets missed: marriage only works when ego gets out of

Curiosity thrives in the right environment. It’s not an on/off switch; it’s a response to how safe it feels to wonder. Create chances that prompt curiosity without forcing it. Set out a strange tool and let them ask what it’s for. Pose a problem and walk away long enough for them to circle back. A child who feels the freedom to fail without judgment will test limits on their own — and that’s how curiosity matures into confidence.

Resentment creates a constant fight-or-flight loop in the brain. The amygdala stays activated. The body doesn’t rest. People who live in long-term resentment develop what psychologists call “hostile attribution bias,” interpreting neutral or benign actions as malicious.