Differentiation, Shame, and the Exhaustion of Carrying What Was Never Yours Some people do not struggle because they lack insight. They struggle because they have absorbed too much responsibility. They feel responsible for how everyone around them feels. They monitor tone, energy shifts, and pauses in conversation. They adjust themselves constantly to keep the environment stable. If someone is upset, they assume they caused it. If they need space, they feel guilty. If they become...

Most marriages do not collapse in one dramatic moment. They drift. Not because love vanished, but because love kept getting postponed. Work is demanding. Kids are exhausting. Money is tight. You are overwhelmed. Every one of those pressures is real. That is the tension. Because love always requires sacrifice, and sacrifice is rarely convenient. So let’s slow this down. What actually makes a spouse feel loved? And what slowly erodes connection, even when your reasons make sense? The Subtle...

The Kind of Love That Feels Like Fate Until It Doesn’t There is a pattern I see in my office more often than people expect. Two people meet. It is intense. Immediate. Magnetic. They feel seen, steadied, chosen. It moves quickly. It feels spiritual. Serendipitous. Meant to be. And then a few years later they are sitting across from me saying: We used to be great. I do not know what changed. They are not who I married. Most of the time, no one deceived anyone. No one was secretly evil. The love...