Divorce. Job loss. Parenting alone. ADHD. Anxiety. Rheumatoid arthritis. More moves than anyone should ever have to endure. In 2018, it all collided at once. She had to pack an entire house alone while her life was falling apart. She did not move because she wanted to. She moved because the ground underneath her gave way, and standing still was not an option.

There was a time when people said marriage was about dying to self. You don’t hear it much anymore, not because it stopped being true, but because we’ve forgotten what marriage really is. We think it’s about compatibility, chemistry, co-parenting, and maybe cohabitation if you’re feeling old-fashioned. But covenant? Sacrifice? Death to ego? That’s ancient language we’ve traded for comfort and convenience. Here’s what often gets missed: marriage only works when ego gets out of the way. And...

Resentment creates a constant fight-or-flight loop in the brain. The amygdala stays activated. The body doesn’t rest. People who live in long-term resentment develop what psychologists call “hostile attribution bias,” interpreting neutral or benign actions as malicious.